What is the obsession with marriage?
Maybe I’m bitter because of how awful my marriage was. I could also be terrified of putting myself back in the position, being so vulnerable.
“When are you two getting married?”
I get asked almost daily. I’m a little concerned when people ask. We were completely private about our relationship for almost 3 months. We’ve only been together for 10 months now. Not even a year. So why are so many people asking? What happened to just being a couple for a while without any pressure for marriage? Why can’t two people just be together and be happy? I don’t need a legal document to prove my love. I need someone there every day and every night. I need someone to love me (and my kids) unconditionally. I want small gestures and forehead kisses. That’s what love is to me.
I say all of this, knowing that I have a hidden board on Pinterest devoted to the idea of marriage again. I’ll be 100% honest about that. But I will also admit that I will be fine if it never happens again. I’m with someone who I love more than the first sip of coffee in the morning. If he were to ever ask I would probably come back with “what took you so long?” But if he doesn’t, oh well. I’m not going anywhere. All that matters is that I get to be with him at the end of the day.
I have even more people telling me that marriage would help my custody case and desire to move. But I don’t see why just being a great mother won’t work. Again, with the constant push for me to get married.
“You’re almost 30, you don’t want to be a bride at 40.” Well, maybe that’s not ideal for you, but that doesn’t matter to me. Love doesn’t expire.
I just want to be with my boyfriend for as long as possible. Married or not, I don’t care. Who doesn’t want some 70 year old lady introducing her boyfriend of 40 years?
